5 Steps to Feeling More Confident

Crazy confession time -- I am not confident in my physical appearance what so ever, I know, CRAZY. I can't tell you the number of times I've cried -- literally cried -- to Jon about how I feel I look. Or asked him to edit photos of me to hide wrinkles, acne, freckles, cellulite, everything I hated about myself. But with a photoshoot coming up tomorrow night and with one planned with Jon on Saturday, I guess it's time to work through that feeling. I wanted to share a couple of ways that I've been able to work through it. 

1. Look in the mirror and tell yourself 5 things you love about you.
This morning I told myself:
         1. I love my eyes
         2. I love my strength
         3. I love my smile
         4. I love my quirky personality
         5. I love the woman I've become over the last year.
Something so simple, but so powerful. 

2. Dress in something that makes you feel good. For some, it's tight fitting clothing, for others, it's boho, loose clothing. For me, it's my favorite white t-shirt, some cut off shorts and my beat up chucks. Who cares what anyone else thinks about your style, you gotta dress for you. 

3. Listen to yourself. Before my abusive relationship, I was so strong. Jon and I are working tirelessly to get me back to that strong place. Writing is a great way of doing this. Or even thinking. A lot of the time Jon will catch me deep in thought, and all I'm doing is listening to myself. Trying to pinpoint my feelings. When I figure it out, I can make better decisions and even communicate more effectively, ultimately making me feel better.

4. Turn those negative self thoughts into something positive. Example, I have severe anxiety. Instead of sitting there stressing out about all the many things I can't control, I talk to you all in my blog or I work out. I'm turning those negative thoughts into something positive by writing something helpful for all of you, or working on bettering my body and mind at the gym. 

5. Set small goals and achieve them. For me, photoshoots are so difficult. I hate having all of the attention on me resulting in not so sexy faces (insert awkward laugh here). One way I've been working on this is practicing poses and faces at home before I get in front of the camera. Each one I nail down is another achievement for me. 

Get out there and kill it ladies! Be bold, be beautiful, be you.