An Open Letter: To The Man Who Loves Her After Abuse

"She loves hard because she knows how it feels to be loved so little" - Iliketoquote.com

It won't be easy, in fact it will be so hard at times it will make you question whether or not you can handle it. She will question you, even though she has absolutely no reason to do so, because one day a man destroyed her ability to trust so freely. She will be fearful of your touch and your words, unable to believe that you have her best interests in mind and heart. She will cry, she will flinch away from you, she will fight with you and try to give you an out at every chance she gets because she feels that you deserve better. She will do everything in her power to prevent you from breaking down that protective barrier she's built around herself, for fear that you will inevitably break her heart. 

BUT

If you really love her, if you put in effort and time -- and consistently remind her of these things -- you will see a switch in her. You will light that flame that went out long before you, you will bring a spark back into her soul. You will see her long for your touch, instead of shy away from it. You will make her laugh and it will be the most beautiful thing you've ever seen. And she will love you. A love so fierce and so loyal that it will make you wonder how you ever could have been with anyone else. 

So yes, it will be difficult. You will want to quit and give up and you won't want to pick up the pieces of a heart you didn't break. But the reward will be so great. You will find a woman who will love you with every fiber of her being. And one day you will look down at her sleeping beside you, with her face buried peacefully and safely on your chest, and you will feel proud that you saved her. That you were the one who got the chance to love her.

 

**Thank you to my amazing boyfriend for all the love and support.
I'm beyond blessed to have you**